I Got A Notion To Say What Doesn't Feel Right

For the past few years people (especially my former coworkers) have been telling me "Hold off on getting married" They tell me to wait, there's no rush, etc. And I agree. For fuck's sake, I'm 23.

My new coworkers, however, are a different story. A 65 year old who works there part time told me I wasn't getting any younger.

Another told me if he hasn't proposed to me yet, he never would.

A third was shocked that I've been going out with him for five years and we weren't married. My response was that I'm still young, I have plenty of time. She said "You're not that young."

Christ. Why does everyone assume he's the one who doesn't want to get married? It could totally be me. For all they know, he's ready and I'm the one holding things up.

In actuality, it's both of us equally. But still.

People are weird. What's with the trying to convince me to get married?

10 comments:

Avitable said...

People are pushy!

I didn't get married until I was 25 and Amy was 27, so take your time.

Robin said...

Same with me and babies, suddenly since I got married everyone seems to be waiting for me to drop the big news. Not. Gonna. Happen.

Poppy said...

Please don't get married at 23.

Unless you feel ready.

And then it's ok.

And don't have babies because of peer/family pressure. Have babies because you wanna.

Amanda said...

Avitable- I plan on it

Robin- But you hold doors open for people! You're clearly cut out for mothering

Poppy- I do not feel ready. And no one asks if I'm having babies, I guess I'm still young enough for that not to be an issue. Or people can tell I'm not maternal

Sarah said...

23 is NOT old.

Hell I'm 21 and I can't even PICTURE being married anytime soon.

People are weird.

Just call me 'A' said...

omg...you're no way old. 23 is like 15..still exploring the world. if u marry now, you'll be answering questions about 'bundle of joy' in another 2 years. scary!

i got married at 28, it was acceptable.
just follow your heart!

Just call me 'A' said...

oh btw..i was just passing by.
hope you did'nt mind the comment

Anonymous said...

People ARE pushy! I'm gonna end up getting married young, but its totally shotgun...

hahah :D

Sarcastica said...

Uhh that above comment was me. I just got click happy before typing in my name and URL.

drowninginlaundry said...

I hate the push to get married myself. I have been with Stewart for 13 years (we are 32) and have 2 kids, a nice home and awesome jobs; yet people find it necessary to ASK when the wedding is on a weekly basis.

Um, never? Seriously? If we really gave a shit we would have done it already.